2. a woman employing, or in authority over, servants or attendants.
3. a female owner of an animal, or formerly, a slave.
4. a woman who has the power of controlling or disposing of something at her own pleasure: mistress of a great fortune.
5. (sometimes initial capital letter) something regarded as feminine that has control or supremacy: Great Britain, the mistress of the seas.
6. a women who is skilled in something, as an occupation or art.
7. a woman who has a continuing, extramarital sexual relationship with one man, esp. a man who, in return for an exclusive and continuing liaison, provides her with financial support.
8. British. a female schoolteacher; schoolmistress.
9. (initial capital letter) a term of address in former use and corresponding to Mrs., Miss, or Ms.
10. Archaic. sweetheart. Definition from dictionary.com
A very simple word, but it means something a little different to everyone. I get asked quite often, what kind of mistress am I?
There are three basic categories of BDSM relationship. Bondage, D/s or dominance, and S&M. Onto those, I’m going to tack fetish play, which can fall into any of those categories, or be one entirely on it’s own.
Bondage is not a aspect of BDSM that I enjoy for it’s own sake. I’ve been with submissives who were heavily aroused by bondage, however, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed myself because of their reactions. In this case, it really depends most on how much the submissive enjoys the activities. Or doesn’t, depending on what the point of the exercise is. I’m familiar with some basic ropework and functional bed ties, but have yet to have the proper opportunity to practice anything more artistic.
S&M is something I enjoy to a certain extent. Floggings, spankings, paddling, and biting are all enjoyable (biting is my favorite) but only to the level of mild bruising. Anything above that would require a long period of familiarity with my sub and a lot of convincing and negotiation.
D/s is the aspect of BDSM that I get the most enjoyment out of. There are some bondage relationships that practice entirely for their love of the art of bondage, with no partner dominating the other. Similarly S&M can be practiced in a minimally dominant relationship. However, I view dominance as overshadowing every single aspect of my life whether it is in the bedroom or the shopping mall, in a scene or out. I get enjoyment out of making decisions and letting my subs take that weight off their shoulders during our time together.
When it comes to fetishes I don’t really have any, but if I were to meet with a sub who genuinely enjoyed something, there are very few that I wouldn’t find some enjoyment in. I’ll try anything once, just about. I am NOT interested in infantilism or scat as a hard rule. Anything else is negotiable.
As a rule, I am not a cruel Mistress, but I can be very strict. I can also be a diva. I expect my submissives to pay attention and know what I like and what I don’t. It’s a measure of your sincerity that you know how I like my pizza (veggie, no peppers), that I’m a fiend for low sugar gourmet hot chocolate, and what my favorite foods are.
As with any relationship, I demand honesty from my submissives.
